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Hey, Coffee…We Need to Talk.

Dear Coffee,
I don’t know how to say this, so I’m going to just say it – we need to take a little break. I know we have a lot of fun together and I really love you, but on Monday I am participating in Egan’s Fit Body Bootcamp’s 4-week Body Burn and part of the deal is that I can’t see you. I know that sounds harsh, but this is important to me and it’s only four weeks.
I know you don’t mean to be, but you can be really toxic and you’ve certainly given me some sleepless nights. And the more time I spend with you, the more of you I want and need. I don’t like feeling that kind of dependency. I need to know that I can handle my life on my own. I appreciate that you’ve gotten me through some really hard times, but I need to learn to be strong on my own.
I’m not blaming anything on you, but sometimes when we start the day together, I feel irritable and my body just feels “off”. Maybe it’s not you, but how will I ever know if I don’t take a break from this relationship. We have to trust that if we are meant to be together, we will find our way back to each other.
I want you to know, it’s not just you. This goes for alcohol and sugar too. But you are my special love. Let’s make the most of these last few days we have together and then reassess our relationship in a month when I am healthier, stronger, and more balanced.
Love always,


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Happy HoliDAZE…

Ho ho ho, Bootcampers…how are the holidays treating you? Have you been making it to all your workouts? Have you been eating well? Getting enough sleep? Seems to me like December is just flying by this year! Here we are just “10 sleeps” away from Christmas and my list of things to do just seems to be growing! I find that during times like these it is super important to listen to my body and take extra good care of myself – my physical, emotional, mental and spiritual self. Here are my top 5 tips for surviving the holiday season:

  1. Workout. Schedule your workouts in your calendar like appointments and then stick to them. Sometimes I even OVER-schedule my workouts by putting two in a day, 7 days a week. This way, when things come up and I have to cancel a workout or two, I’ve still hit at least 4-5 days minimum. Keeping active will help keep your immune system strong and your stress levels down, plus it will help balance the increased intake of treats and libations that often come with the holidays.
  2. Supplement. During high stress/busy times, I take a whole-food multivitamin/antioxidant (you can get a whole-food multi from any health food store) and a good probiotic daily. I also have begun taking a raw whole-food B complex vitamin since I’m a vegetarian/vegan. I also keep some Echinacea capsules on-hand to start taking if I feel a tickle in my throat or people around me are sick.
  3. Sleep. When my calendar gets crazy, I scour it for times that I can fit in extra sleep and I’m careful to factor in my need for shut eye. Everyone is different, but everyone knows when they are not getting enough sleep. Learn to listen to your body – when it asks you to get more rest, DO IT. Go to bed an hour earlier. Sneak in a nap. Whatever it takes. I’m even for skipping a workout to sleep in if your body is asking for that (yes, you have my permission, just don’t make it a habit!). Remember that your body will whisper to you first and then it will SHOUT!!! Whispers are things like fuzzy thinking, tired shoulders, tension headaches, crabbiness. SHOUTS are twisted ankles, strep throat, the flu, pulled back muscles, migranes…you get the idea.
  4. Quiet. Make an effort to find just 5 to 15 minutes a day when you can sit alone, doing nothing, in a peaceful surrounding. It could be your bedroom, your car, your office. Just close your eyes, relax, and breathe. It is more critical than ever to find time to SLOW DOWN when things around you are moving extra fast. Take a moment each day to be present in the moment instead of allowing yourself to be unconsciously swept up in the whirlwind of holiday sales, crazy traffic, and the overall LOUDNESS of the season. I think of it like using a remote to pause the world around you…with everything frozen, you can take your time to look around and enjoy your life from a new perspective. You step out of the scene and realize that YOU ARE IN CONTROL of your experience.
  5. Love. To not only survive, but THRIVE through the holidays, my best tip for you is to OPEN YOUR HEART and “Embrace Love” as my sister, Alice says. Yes, the holidays are a crazy time when stress is high and calendars are overflowing with commitments, but the holidays are also the perfect opportunity to connect with people (family, friends, strangers) in the most magical and fulfilling ways. People’s hearts are more open than ever during this time of year…so use the holidays as a time to LET GO and LET LOVE…let go of the petty stuff that doesn’t matter, let go of stuff (physical and emotional) that you don’t want to take with you into the new year, let go of the need for perfection, let go of family baggage, let go of bitterness and resentment, let go of past hurts and ego, let go of worrying what others will think, let go of stress and anxiety, let go of it all and LET LOVE guide you this holiday season. Instead of stressing about all the STUFF you have to do, keep it simple and let your heart guide you. As Maya Angelou said, “I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”

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Question of the Day: How do YOU thrive during the holidays? Share your tips for us in the comments!


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Inspiration Friday: Raise Your Vibration!!!

So, one of the many fabulous hats I wear is the one of “Marketing Mom” for MomsinHawaii.com. The big thing we’ve been working on is our Happy New You Makeover Promotion that launched today – yay! I am really excited about this one, not only because hardworking moms have a chance to win a fabulous prizes like stylish clothing from my favorite boutique Eden in Love and pampering treatments from the Queen’s Women’s Health Center, but also because to enter this contest, moms must answer the question: “What are you proud of?”

The reason I love this so much is that the question pushes us to look for our own value. Recognizing our own value and self-worth is one of the hardest things to do, and yet it is one of the most surefire ways to RAISE YOUR VIBRATION. And what happens when we raise our vibration? Well, life is just easier, sweeter, and more fun! I recently took on a challenge that was put out by inspirational mom, blogger, raw foodist Tera Warner that was inspired by EFT master Carol Look. Tera challenged her readers to, “Tell me ten things you love about yourself!”. The goal of the challenge was to “lower your resistance” and “raise your vibration” so that you could feel that FLOW – you know the one, that FLOW that you feel when things are just going your way, you are reaching your goals, and you just feel like THE UNIVERSE HAS YOUR BACK!

I did this for 30 days straight! If I missed a day, I would make up for it on the next one – it was tough, but it was AMAZING. And it works! Taking this time each day to think about what I love about myself really helped me to feel lighter and more resilient, despite tough days at work or with the kids. This experience really inspired me as we worked with our Moms Community to create this fun and exciting contest. It is our hope that our Island Moms will take a moment to toot their own horns, raise their vibration, and feel that sense of empowerment that comes from recognizing their own value.

So whether you are a mom or not, challenge yourself to think of 10 things each day that you are proud of or that you love about yourself. We have a tradition in our home at dinner time that we call “Appreciation/Proud Of Circle”. First, we go around and say things we appreciate about each other, then we go around and say things that we are proud of. It never fails to raise the vibration at the dinner table and makes for such a nice dining experience. The kids love it. Gratitude and Self-Worth are always delicious. So dive in!

Here are 10 things I’m proud of as a mother:

  1. I’m proud that I make the kids healthy home lunches
  2. I’m proud that I teach my children to look for the benefit in challenges
  3. I’m proud that my children trust me with their fears
  4. I’m proud that I can make my kids laugh
  5. I’m proud that my children can depend on me
  6. I’m proud that I am always looking for ways to improve myself as a mother
  7. I’m proud that I’m teaching my kids about gratitude, self-worth, and love
  8. I’m proud that I am conscious about being patient, present, and available for my children
  9. I’m proud that I really listen to my kids
  10. I’m proud that I embrace my kids for who they are and encourage them to find their own voice and power

What are YOU proud of? Share your comments here and be sure to ENTER at MomsinHawaii.com


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Inspiration Friday: You Can Create an Exceptional Life

Is it Inspiration Friday already?! Yay! Today’s inspiration is the book “You Can Create an Exceptional Life” by Louise Hay & Cheryl Richardson. I bought this book for myself for my birthday and just finished. As you can tell by all the post-its, I was quite inspired by the whole thing! I’ve been carrying it around with me for reference and to re-read certain sections. It’s a delicious little morsel of a book; a nutrient-dense meal for your soul.

I pretty much love anything Hay House does and this book was no exception. If you are looking for a quick read to remind you of the power you have to create a great life full of love, forgiveness, and joy then get yourself a copy, curl up, and enjoy! Here is the book description:

For countless people, the words of Louise Hay have served as a beacon, leading them out of the darkness of despair and into the light of a better life. Cheryl Richardson is one of the many individuals whom Louise has greatly influenced . . . before going on to become a best-selling author herself.

So what happens when these two combine their collective wisdom into one book?

The result is what you’re now holding in your hands. As Louise and Cheryl engage in a series of empowering and intimate conversations, you’ll feel as if you’re simultaneously having lunch with your best friends and also attending a master class put on by two leaders of the self-empowerment movement.

As they travel throughout North America and Europe together, Louise and Cheryl discuss a wide range of topics, including the importance of loving ourselves and our bodies; aging consciously; bringing true prosperity and abundance to the world; manifesting positive relationships—both with family and friends and in the workplace; and facing death in a dignified and peaceful way.

These two amazing women are living proof that the spiritual principles they discuss in these pages really work. As you read, you’ll discover that you, too, have the ability to create an exceptional life!

And so now, I’m about to start my next inspirational read, “Spirit Junkie” by Gabrielle Bernstein. I’m so excited! Have an inspiring weekend everyone! I’ll be at the Oh Baby! Family Expo this weekend with MomsinHawaii.com! Come and check it out!

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Inspiration Friday: DeRose Method Hawaii

Happy Inspiration Friday! Today’s inspiration is Guilherme Alves and DeRose Method Hawaii. Gui teaches “Bootcamp Stretch” a few times a week for Egan’s Fit Body Bootcamp but also has yoga classes all across the state. The style of yoga that he teaches is the DeRose Method, named after Professor DeRose, who you can read more about on Gui’s website www.derosehawaii.com

DeRose Method is what is known as Swasthya Yoga or “Ancient Yoga” and the benefits of this practice are many…but the practice is not just about the body, it is about the mind and the spirit. As it says on www.derosehawaii.com:

“The objective of all sorts of Yoga is a state of self-knowledge called samadhi. While promoting this state of extreme lucidity, the Ancient Yoga (Swasthya Yoga) also gifts the practitioner with several preliminary effects which will reinforce one’s biological structure. It increases the yogin’s vitality, health, energy, and life expectancy, to promote its goal: samadhi. 

Yoga’s physical benefits (muscular, articular, circulatory, neurological and endocrin) are nothing but interesting (and positive!) side effects of its practice.”

All I know is that I feel so clear, energized, and happy after taking Gui’s classes. And I have gotten so much more flexible. Yoga is not for everyone, I know. I bet some of you are saying, “I don’t like yoga”, “I’m not flexible”, “it’s too slow for me”, or “it’s boring”. I get it, I’ve said all those things before. But I’ve grown to love yoga and when I take the time to slow down for an hour of class with Gui, I feel like I have given myself a gift.

I will admit that there are definitely times when motivating myself to come to yoga class is hard. Especially when I’m busy. I often feel like I should skip yoga to get some extra work done. But the reality is that I am usually more productive after I’ve centered myself with an hour of yoga. Slowing down can sometimes be hard for me and I know this is true for many of us, especially at Bootcamp.

Getting motivated to go to Bootcamp is different. You know you will be pumped up by the music, the trainers, the other bootcampers, the intense workout. But with Gui’s yoga classes, it is just you, your quiet classmates, Gui’s soothing voice, and your mat. You will be forced to be calm, to be still, to slow down and breathe, reflect, and BE with yourself and your body. I think THAT is what many of us are actually resisting, not the yoga itself. Something to think about for sure.

Now I’m not here to convince you guys to do yoga. Even the DeRose Method philosophy states, “One must not choose yoga thinking in terms of ‘are its benefits worth the time spent?’, these benefits being neither physical nor, even less, spiritual. One must seek yoga if one feels attracted to it, as a painter would feel the need to paint.” But I will offer that yoga is a great way to help you become a more balanced athlete and all around human being.

So try out one of Gui’s classes, if for no other reason than to witness what an amazing athlete he is. Gui is living proof of what a strong yoga practice and vegetarian diet can help you attain. He can lift his entire body weight with his finger tips and can roll his stomach muscles in a way that will blow your mind. Conscious, caring, and devoted to his students, Gui is a true inspiration and a super cool guy! Thank you Gui for sharing your gift with all of us.

One last thing. For those of you that think yoga is just for for girls, hippies, or senior citizens, check out this awesome video that Gui showed us of Brazilian jiu-jitsu champion Rickson Gracie doing Swasthya yoga. Love it!

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Fitness is a Journey…with Quiche.

We made it through Egan’s 28 Day Flat Belly program – how did you do? I’ve heard amazing stories of inches and pounds lost, energy gained, and new healthy habits being formed. Recently, I was talking with Bootcamper Josh (who has lost 24 pounds as of today!) about motivation. He bravely confided in me a couple weeks ago that his motivation had begun to slide and that while he had started out “gung ho”, he was now really only putting in about 50% effort. Of course, this is “asking for it” in the Bootcamp world. Telling your Bootcamp trainer to her face that you are slacking is a sure fire way to get a lot of yelling and extra burpees. But actually, Josh discovered that just by coming clean about his plateau in motivation, he was inspired to kick it up a notch. Once he put it out there and was accountable for his slacking, he found new motivation to get him going again.

Oprah once said, “The big secret in life is that there is no big secret. Whatever your goal, you can get there if you’re willing to work.” This certainly applies to your fitness journey. There is no big secret that will unlock your motivation forever. Even professional athletes lose motivation and inspiration along the way. But what separates the success stories from the failed attempts is the willingness to continue to find new inspiration and motivation along the way.

Fitness is a journey, not a destination. You will find things that work for you and things that don’t. You will hit plateaus. You will get bored. You will slip up. You will get busy. Your life and schedule might change. The most important thing to do is to listen to what your mind and body are asking for and then use this inner wisdom to find new motivation and solutions to your hurdles. Josh’s mind was telling him that he needed more accountability, so he acted on that by speaking up about his lack of motivation. This type of awareness paired with action is the true path to success.

The myth is that you set a fitness goal, you reach it and then you are happy and fit with the perfect body forever. That is not reality. The hard truth is, fitness success means setting goals and finding new motivation over and over again for the rest of your life. Fitness success is making a habit of continuing on the journey instead of throwing in the towel when things become challenging, uninspiring, or frustrating. Fitness success is training yourself to find the fun in refocusing, re-energizing, and setting new goals. The beauty of this perspective is that it allows you to enjoy life TODAY, wherever you are in your fitness journey, instead of waiting for chasing a perfect future that doesn’t exist.

So now that our Flat Belly Challenge is over, what are your new goals? What are the fun things you are going to try this month? Will you add another day of Bootcamp or try a new nutrition program? Will you try mediation? How about yoga? Will you add in a weekly run or swim? Share your goals for October with us!

My goals for this month…I plan to add in a weekly jog in my sassy Vibrams and also plan to try some new vegan recipes. Here is my first new dish. Vegan Quiche. I made it with a spelt pie crust from Down to Earth. It is filled with sauteed shallots, zucchini, spinach, garlic, extra firm tofu, almond milk, nutritional yeast, Bragg’s aminos, curry powder, and pine nuts. I topped it with sun-dried tomatoes and more pine nuts. Healthy dinner with leftovers for my lunch! Bon appetit and see you at Bootcamp!

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Tick Tock, Party People!

Here we are heading into our last week of Flat Belly Challenge. How are we feeling? Remember, it is not about how PERFECT you followed this program or any other – it is about getting in the habit of feeling good and making great choices for ourselves every day! Which tricks, tips, healthy eating or fitness habits are you going to keep? What feels so good that it will become a lifestyle? In my opinion, that’s the goal of any program like this. It is not about restricting yourself for 28 days so that you can go back to unhealthy choices once is it OVER. It is about resetting your body/mind and shifting your perspective so that you can see that YOU can control your choices and therefore YOUR EXPERIENCE each and every day. That is EMPOWERING.

If you are breathing, you are ALIVE and that means you have TIME ON THE CLOCK to take control of your life and create the experience you want to have on this planet. I want to share an amazing video with you on this very subject. I saw it on one of my absolute FAVORITE websites, FinerMinds.com, which is a one-stop shop for all things inspiring and awesome. Below is their intro to this video. Do yourself a favor and set aside an hour to watch this. It will be time well spent, I promise. What’s your bucket list? Share with us in the comments below and then get to it! Tick tock!

Okay before you watch this video, stretch your arms and grab a Kleenex.

Now, let Sean Stephenson take you through his powerful talk at Awesomeness Fest 2010 that will make your toes tingle and and inspire you to to crank life up a notch by living it to the MAX. Warning: we’ve got possible tears, a little bit of laughter and definitely dancing coming!

Seriously, this Three Foot Giant will knock your socks off. His life-changing story will make you realize that no obstacle should stop you, or anyone else, from living life to the fullest. Sean teaches us that life is not worth whining about and instead of fretting about problems we’re actually much better off doing a boogie instead.

If you’ve not met this remarkable man, you’ll learn quickly that his heart is made of pure gold. Despite surviving over 200 fractured bones by the age of 18, Sean rocks his life to epic proportions and is working his way through an awesome bucket list (he’s already ticked off scuba diving and meeting the Dalai Lama).

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